[Coco] Appologies

[Roger Taylor]

At 09:43 AM 3/26/2010, you wrote:
>Jason, are you married? If not, you'll probably stay that way. If 
>you are, how long? If you take this same attitude you won't be 
>married much longer. Just because you disagree with the majority (or 
>they disagree with you) doesn't necessarily make you right or wrong, 
>it just means you disagree. Sometimes you just need to "agree to 
>disagree" and let it go. Looks to me like that's the point that was 
>reached. I just skimmed through most of those posts. I saw valid 
>points on both sides -- just no consensus. I find that often happens 
>when programmers talk. It's worse than car guys claiming how their 
>brand is best and the rest are junk! Most of the time that's a bit 
>tongue-in-cheek, but programmers get SERIOUS!! ;>
>So don't let a disagreement ruin the CoCo experience or the list. 
>There will always be people who disagree with you. You'll learn to 
>tell who you can have a heated debate with and who you can't. Lots 
>of personalities everywhere -- you learn some and respectfully 
>decline to reply to their remarks (a polite way of saying ignore 
>them -- some of them will be ignoring you too, by the way!). 
>Sometimes you do have to "bite your tongue" when replying.
>People forget that even an old fashioned mail list like this is 
>really the same as talking in a room full of people with similar 
>interests but flew in from all over the world. Sort of like the 
>hospitality room at a CoCoFest. The internet insulates a lot, but 
>over a day or two everyone in the "room" knows EXACTLY what was 
>said, unlike a physical room -- there's even a transcript (not that 
>it's always used...)! So there's a delay in "hearing", but the 
>hearing is more exact. There are no "tones"  or body language to go 
>along with the hearing, so that can make it more difficult. We all 
>have different levels of writing too, and it's not always easy to 
>convey precisely what you mean in words. I'm pretty sure you know 
>all this, but we ALL need a reminder sometimes!


It also seems like what you have said above, which is very true, has 
to be reinterated in most forums at least every 6 months or so.  I 
guess we were due.  :)

-- 
~ Roger Taylor